Dangerous Women

THE evil of  'Face-Me-I-Slap-You' houses are numerous. A lot of terrible things happen in those tenement houses. Vices such as envy, jealousy, gossip, backbiting, fornication, adultery, child abuse etc abound there. Fighting among tenants are very very common and even killing during such fights. But when I read this story some weeks ago, about a woman killing another woman in their tenement house, and claiming the devil did it, I was stunned. I would not have imagined that a woman would killed another woman for a mere fight over soiled clothes.

What would have possessed a 40-year-old woman to kill her neighbour by slitting her throat with a knife? What would have taken hold of her mind, body and soul to transform her to a merciless and heartless human being? I mean what came over her and made her take a knife and slit another woman's throat that was not a rival? Even if they had quarreled that is not enough reason for her to kill another in such brutal and heartless way. .

It was even more alarming when Okeke claimed she did not know her neighbour had died until Police came to arrest her. What a senseless waste of human life. From the news, Helen Okeke, aka Mama Chinedu and Rosemary were neighbours in the Ikota Housing Estate in Lekki/Ajah axis of Lagos State.
Okeke, who said she was unmarried and had a son out of wedlock, asked the family of the deceased to forgive her, as she was not in control of herself during the incident. This is really sad.

More heartbreaking is the fact that the deceased, Rosemary,  was reportedly preparing for her wedding. The enemy is wicked. Why wait till after the ladies struggle to find a life partner before they snuffed life out of her? Sad.

And what caused this quarel that led to the slitting of throat?

The deceased returned home and observed that the clothes she spread on her door before leaving home earlier had been soiled with urine. Though she suspected the killer, Rosemary, she decided to report the incident to the landlady who pacified her. She left and went back to her room but death followed her because minutes after, neighbors heard her sudden cry for help. When they rushed in, Okeke had already slit her neck with a knife. Unfortunately, she died on her way to the hospital.

Hear what Okeke, who works as a cleaner, said when she was interviewed by journalist at Panti:

 “I have been living in that house for more than two years. The first time we fought, she shone her torch on me and I queried why she did that. She then hit me with the torch, and that was how we fought.
The landlady, Alhaja, never gave me any quit notice as she claimed. I was even the one preparing to leave the apartment because it was too small for me.On that day, she carried a bucket of water and stood in front of my room saying I should come out if I know I was woman enough.
“I had just returned from where I went to buy bread and was inside my room. I did not want to come out.
But a spirit just entered into my room and entered me. I was shaking uncontrollably and that was when I went out. I took a bucket of water and poured it on the floor in front of my room. But Rosemary poured her bucket of water on me, and that was when the fight started.
“I cannot explain what happened next. I have never had this kind of experience in my life. It was while I was at the police station that they said she was dead.
I need forgiveness from Rosemary and her family. I want people to learn from my example that fighting is not good.

 Actually, ENVY would have caused it. Envy is a feeling of grudge and a desire to have something that is possessed by another. Envy is deadly. Its a spirit that possesses one and causes rage and bitterness against another who seems to be doing better.
Helen was probably envious of Rosemary getting married while she is stuck with a child and no suitor in sight. She envied her coming marriage and goodluck and could not take it. When anyone allows such evil feeling to take hold of their mind, the outcome is always disastrous and fatal.
Instead of counting her own blessings, Okeke  was busy counting Rosemary's own and allowed the enemy into her mind and now she will pay for that gruesome murder.

THE ABUSED WOMAN AND THE SOCIETY

A friend of mine some years ago called me that she is in the hospital alone. She is married with 3 kids so I was surprised that she was there alone. I asked where the husband was and her reply shocked me. I quickly left the office and rushed to her side.

 The state that my friend was in broke my heart. She had bruises all over her body. Her head was wrapped up with one eye and lips swollen. Between tears and anguish, she told me her husband did that to her. I knew the man was irresponsible, reckless and a womanizer but becoming a wife beater was something else.

WHAT WAS THE REASON  for the wife to be beaten blue black? She said she saw a pack of condom in her car that the husband used the night before this incident. She just advised him to be careful since the son had previously seen one and brought it to her as balloon. The husband even saw the condom with the boy but only burst into laughter.

 For daring to advise him that he should be discreet with his infidelity and not bring it home, he slapped her. And for her trying to resist the slap, he pounced on her. It was the neighbours who came to her rescue.  It was one of them that took her to the hospital that morning and called her sister.  

I couldn’t believe it. I know the guy is violent despite the fact that he goes to a bible believing Church. My friend was already Born Again when she met him but the fear of being too old to get married, she settled for the charmer.

When the parent heard, they came to Lagos to take her home.  She left with her parents and I had to get sick leave and submit to her office. She was with her parents for 2 weeks and we had  to intercede in prayers and counseling.   The guy did not bother to call. He only called when the little son was ill and he didn’t know what to do. Her parents insisted that the husband had to come home. He went to beg her and her parent and promised he would not beat her again.

 That was not the fist time she had been beaten by her husband but it was certainly the last.

There are several  reasons that made her to endure those beating:

1)      One of the reasons she endured was  her Children. The children then were aged between 4 to 7 years. How could she leave her 3 young children to suffer?

2)      The other reason is what the society will say when she separates from her husband. In our African culture, a divorced woman is stigmatized. She is looked down on and blamed for the breakdown of the marriage.  They will say she wants to start sleeping around that is why she left.

3)      The next reason is that she may be the troublemaker who is always provoking the husband. Women are supposed to be quiet, docile, subservient and obedient.

4)      Also as a believer, she knows God in His word, The BIBLE forbids Divorce.
5) She had no job and was relying solely on her husband to provide for her and the children. If she leaves, how will she survives? 

There were  many more  reasons why my friend endured the physical and emotional abuse for years.  SO when she returned,  we advised her not to be confrontational no matter what.
We advised her to ignore the husbands provocation and not answer back even when she is being verbally attacked by the man.
Its been 3 years now and the relationship has improved greatly. Little by little the WORD of God is getting to her husband.
The Bible says in Proverbs that a soft answer brings peace and that is the weapon my friend is using. She does not answer back and does not allow any argument to get out of Hand. And to the Glory of God she got a job immediately after she came back.

But many other women are not as lucky as my friend. So many have died from physical abuse and many are maimed for Life or disfigured by their husbands.
The Society is not helping matter. The law also is not strong enough to convict these wife beaters. There have been so many declarations and convention on the elimination of  Violence Against Women but these have not stopped or eliminate wife battering. The impact of these convention has been minimal or zero when it comes to Nigerian men.
 Its sad that many women are suffering these physical, emotional and psychological abuses and they cannot speak out.

This cycle of abuse below has explained a lot.......... If a woman notices that tension is increasing and she is fearful of the husbands' reaction, its better she does everything to calm him instead of aggravating him.
Please wives, don't allow the situation to get out of hands. Be wise.

Expel SARAKI and DOGARA ?

 


It is being argued in the public court whether APC,  the party under which BUKOLA SARAKI and DOGARA pictured above were elected should sack/ expel them or not. Why are people asking for them to be expelled?  its because of disregard to their party's directive on the selection of Officers of the 8th National Assembly.

But we need to look at the antecedent. Since the beginning of this democratic experience in 1999, impunity has prevailed within the Nigerian political landscape with elected officers decamping from their Parties to another and getting away with it. This has been going on but we need to stop it in order to bring sanity to our political landscape. We must just do something soon. This defection is what is making politicians to indulge in anti party activities, indiscipline, disobedient to party rules. They know they can defect to another party and their former party cannot do anything to sanction them or can their constituency recall them.
Yes it did not start now but it cannot continue. So for sanity within our political space the cancer must be arrested.

Reasons why Nigerians are calling for expulsion of SARAKI and DOGARA from The All Progressive Congress Party:.
1. The 2 were elected under the platform of APC during the General election and the party won majority in both Chambers.
2. In the Senate, APC won 60 seats  and PDP’s 49 to make up the 109 members.
3. In the House of Representatives, APC also has more members than PDP.
4.  A Mock election was conducted by the Party whereby members were elected to be leaders of the 8th Assembly in both Chambers.
5. Two people were chosen by a majority of the members of the APC.
6. The Party seeing the disagreement that the mock election caused, decided to settle the rift calling for a meeting with the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
7. The Group led by Bukola Saraki rather than attend the meeting, decided to align with the opposition Party to have their way and even selected a deputy to the Senate President from the opposition Party.
8. In the House of Representatives, against the Party's' directives, another election was held.
9. The Party in order to be accommodating and careful, called them together to settle the rift and pacify the others Lawmakers that were excluded from the initial nomination. But that too was rejected by these 2 (SARAKI and DOGARA).
10. They refused to read the Letters from their Party on the floor of the Chambers so that there are not forced to do what the Party wanted.
11. They ignored their Party, aligned again with the opposition and even nominated people from the opposition as Principal Officers of the Chambers. 

From the above, there are reasons why Saraki and Dogara must be disciplined by the leaders of APC. Its being said that an infected part of the body must be removed so the disease does not spread to other parts of the body.  APC needs to clean its house.  We do not need another set of rebellious Politicians. APC  needs to come together to be formidable Party so these desperate, ambitious traitors must be dealt with so that the CHANGE promised by them can be implemented.

By disregarding their Chairman, The President of Nigeria, they need to be disciplined.

I hope the Political Parties can once again seek interpretation  from the Supreme Court on penalties for defecting Politicians. If not then the Constitution should be amended so that a Politician that defect from one party to another can be expelled and the seat be filled by another. Until that is done, our politicians will continue with this recklessness and rebellious streak.

But before that is done, these 2 must be expelled to serve as a deterrent to others. I know there may be negative consequencies for the ruling party, APC but it has to be done.
We cannot continue with this impunity. Its abuse of process. Nigerians voted out PDP but unfortunately, SARAKI and DOGARA have brought them back to be our leaders instead of floor members. This is a slap on Nigerians. Everywhere you turn to in Nigeria, people are angry with them.

PEFON Induction June 2015

June 20^th  was a date I needed to keep as directed by my Boss, my Sole Administrator. But the day started as a dull day. The rain started quite early and throughout that morning, it rained. At a point I started praying because, I was scared that the rain would stop me from attending the Award and Induction ceremony of the Professional  Excellence  Foundation of  Nigeria.

My Sole Administrator, Eng Joe Isah of Ajaokuta Steel Company Limited was being honoured and inducted as a Distinguished Fellow of the Foundation and I was to stand in for him. I did not want to get there late and with the rain, I was really worried. Also my brother who is to drive me to the venue,  stays in another area that gets flooded easily.   I had to be calling him every other hour to remind him that its raining (as if he doesn’t already know that) and that we need to leave the mainland earlier than we agreed.

The rain had been raining since morning and our street was flooded. The other staff, Raphael that was to go with me called that he would not make it as his area was flooded too. Since I was directly instructed by my SOLAD, I had to go alone.

I got to the Venue in Victoria Island by 2pm, an hour before the commencement of the event. Everywhere was flooded and I feared that people would not show up but they did. Although  the turn out was low, it was still memorable.

I met some of Nigerians best professionals in Pharmacy, Banking, Legal, Enginnering, Investment etc. I have not met Ndi-Okereke Onyuike, the former Director General of NSE before but I was able to stand and discuss with her. I met another woman, Professor Sophie Oluwole of Unilag African Studies Department. She is a very passionate woman about African culture and Tradition. She is a fast talker too. She talked about African professional which should be honoured too but Chief Dipo Bailey the founder corrected her that those people are vocational artisans not professional because of their low work ethics. But he agreed that an award would be created to honour the highly skilled ones among them.

Objectives of the Foundation

• Identifying the Nigerian Professionals at home and abroad who may wish to be part of the Foundation.
• Recognize and Reward professional Excellence.
• Raise a Scholarship fund to assist the young ones to study and become professionally qualified.
• Wherever possible, assist the professionally qualified to be employed
• Recognize the Builders of Professionals i.e. individuals and institutions who even though do not possess professional qualifications, but have employed a large number of professionals.
• To organize fora to seek ways of developing Nigeria Further.

So many professionals have bought into this idea and have been identifying with the Foundation. Though the rain affected the attendance because even the chairman of the Board, Chief Julius Adelusi did not come many others came. From the list of the inductees, 2 did not come too but the program went ahead and it was a success.

Chief Bailey announced to the house that come August this year when the next set of professionals will be inducted, I will be among them. I laughed because money no dey to do that now. I would love to do that but na person wey chop belle full na im dey think about Awards. Abi no be so?

I congratulate my Sole Administrator, Engineer Joseph Onobere Isah for the Award and I thank the Professional Excellence Foundation of Nigeria for honouring him. He deserves to be honoured. He has been working so hard to start production at the Plant.

THIS IS BRUCE, SORRY CAITLIN JENNER

This is Caitlin Jenner formerly Bruce Jenner the father of 6 children and a former World Champion in Sports.

    

                                                                                                                  

Some weeks ago, the world was shocked by the News of Bruce Jenner’s transition to a woman.

Bruce Jenner is a Reality Star of the TV Show ' Keeping up with the Kardashians and a former Athlete.  He is also an Olympic gold medalist and three time divorcee. 

His first marriage to Christie Scott produced two children namely Burton and Cassandra. His marriage to Linda Thompson gave him two sons namely Brandon and Brody and finally from his recent divorce from Kris Jenner he has Kendall and Kylie.

Bruce Jenner was always lay back and controlled by Kris Jenner, his wife then and the mother of the Kardashians sisters, Kourtney, Kim and Khloe. He was supposed to be the Man in the Family, the head of the Family like we say in Africa but he was always silent and detached. I dont really like watching the reality tv show because that wife of his is a manipulative and domineering woman. Who knows maybe the strong trait he saw in Kris made him to want to be a woman. Just saying.

To some in the entertainment industry, its cool but to me its weird and ungodly.

God created him a man. The Bible says we are fearfully and wonderfully made by God. We are God's beautiful Creation. God cant be wrong with him. He has been fulfilled as a man. He has married 3 women, and fathered 6 children. What else does he want?  Why did he waits for 65 years before deciding the way God created him was wrong? This is insane.

Transgender involve a partial or full reversal of gender. So Bruce has transgendered, what happens if tomorrow he does not like to be a woman again?  From interviews and discussions on the show, he said he was suffering inside, She said she has had to deal  with gender dysphoria since youth. So from all intents and purposes he was a woman in a man garb. But it did not look like that to me. He had married 3 times apart from other women he had dated as a man. The last marriage lasted 25 years. 

I think this celebrity status emboldened him too to embark on this change.

As the show KUWTK progresses, he started distancing himself by moving out from his house claiming his former wife, Kris was unbearable and overbearing. Although he was not the only that started distancing himself, Rob did too but Bruce caused  concern among his children. His children Brody and Brandon are now regulars on the show so one would have expected him to be featured on each episode but this was not the case.

 Now Brandon, Brody, Kendall and Kylie his biological children: Kourtney, Kim and Khloe, step children have 2 mothers,  Although he is being celebrated by all when the change was made public including President Barack Obama  who wrote on his twitter account "It takes courage to share your story", It against God doctrine. My Church will say this is a deliverance case.

I bid CAITLIN JENNER goodluck as she becomes a transgender woman.